The need to be needed.

Have you ever tried to make someone love you?

I know that I have, and I used to be in relationships with men that were limited in their

ability to meet my needs or love me. It was as if I had a sign on my

head that said “I'm not lovable” on it.

I spent my time in these relationships being needy and trying to make them care about me

and love me, and it was exhausting.

Are you familiar with that feeling you get in the pit of your stomach

that drives you to try to make someone care about you and love you?

It almost feels like someone kicked you in the stomach, and even if they

say they love you, or do something nice for you, there is this nagging

feeling that is ever present within you, and you are never fully satisfied.

Or this may show up differently for you. Maybe you're a People-Pleaser

and you're always doing things for other people even if you don't really

want to, because of the need to be needed.

That needy feeling is an emotional resonance from something in your past

that has yet to be healed within you, and it can show up in all areas of

your life, from your relationship with your partner, family, friends,

and even your workplace.

You may have turned to alcohol to soothe this emotional resonance, but until

you dive deep into it and release it, you simply have two problems now.

Lean into this feeling of need and just be curious about it.

Allow your mind to bring anything forward that it's related to, and then just be curious about that.

Allow the feeling of need to drain out of your body to the best of your ability,

so that you can begin to attract relationships in your life that are healthy for

you, and that bring you joy.

Ultimately you want to be in a relationship with yourself first, work on your

bag of crap, and then move into a healthy relationship.

Start where you are, but just start. It's hard, but totally worth it!

Giant air hug coming your way. :)

To your success,

Amunet

How denial is impacting you now.

Have you ever felt really tired and decided to push through your fatigue, only to wind up laid out in bed over the next two days because you denied your body rest?

Have you ever had one of those days when it seems like your life is falling apart and you just figured you would go to the mall or on a road trip instead of addressing what was happening?

Have you ever not addressed an important health issue? Have you ever allowed other people to treat you poorly thinking that someday they will change?

These are just some of the ways that denial shows up in our lives. Life is messy and it can feel overwhelming at times. We sometimes need to put our head in the sand for a bit to regroup and come up with a solution to address what's happening in our lives, but when we're there for too long it winds up doing more damage than if we had addressed the problem in the first place.

Perhaps you're aware of what's happening in your life that is affecting you negatively, but you rationalize it away, or minimize its impact on you.

If you're drinking too much you may say to yourself “It's only for tonight”, but tonight happens over and over again, putting a strain on your body. The next morning you feel like crap, yet the pattern keeps repeating because you are in denial as to its impact on you.

Are you denying your own needs?

As mothers and fathers we can put our children first and never pay attention to our needs, wants, and desires, and we forget that we are important too.

Take a look at your life and assess where you can acknowledge something that needs change, a new direction, or a new approach.

Have an amazing day!

Amunet